I decided post breakup with Mr. Travel Writer that I would give myself a decent amount of time sans men in my life not only because I was a damn wreck, but also it felt so good to just not date or care about dating or care about any of that side of things for a good long while. You don’t realize it sometimes, but as a single woman, men in the romantic sense can take up a hell of a lot of your life! This is both good and bad and I like my life both with and without dating in it, but it was really refreshing to just not give a shit about it AT ALL.
Well sadly that brief respite from the circus that is dating is now over. I moved to a new apartment and felt that was the right time to start having one night stands again! Just kidding. But it did feel as good of a time as ever to dust off that dating profile and get back out there.
So I don’t know if I got uglier in the last year or WHAT, but it has been some barren hell of a wasteland for me in this Month One. Not one date! Here’s what I’ve got so far:
BUMBLE
More and more people are meeting on Bumble these days. It’s like Bumble is the new Match. If I have to hear one more time how so and so met their boyfriend, fiancee, etc. on Bumble, I’m going to throw bees in someone’s face!
Before my last relationship, I tried Bumble for a couple weeks. I got one date out of it but I concluded that particular app attracts men who don’t make moves, because the whole premise of the app is that women make the first move. I’m all for gender equality and I think the women message first thing is a good idea, but if that translates to women do everything in this relationship, then hard pass.
However, I thought I would give it another whirl and reactivated my profile. I was on it for two weeks ago and got nothing. Oh wait, no. Here’s what I got:
Many matches but ZERO conversations. It was like talking to a wall. A wall of cute men who I guess either hate me even though they matched with me, were too busy, no longer have the app, don’t care, are stuck in Zimbabwe.
Either way, wow. What the hell? Minus one for Bumble.
My old crutch tends to be OKCupid. Unfortunately, so far, OKCupid has turned into a parade of men who I either have already gone on dates, had already messaged and traded numbers with or who have literally been on that site since 2009 when I first joined it as a wee one. No judgement there, I mean look at myself, but gah depressing. No dates procured yet. Some decent albeit lame messaging. Oh and wait a proposal to start an affair. Again, hard pass.
After all of this, I finally stooped low enough to reactivate Tinder which is just about as hopeless.
How does a gal get a decent date in this town!? I ask ya!
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